I’m typically the kind of person who keeps negative feelings to herself in an effort to not bring others down, but also to appear to be a well-adjusted, happy, likable person. However, I’ve recently come to the realization that it’s actually a good idea to tell people your problems.
First, it’s beneficial to your mental health to simply get it out. Whether that takes the form of talking to others, journaling, or making art – you just have to get it out of your brain and out of your heart.
More importantly, when you do put it out there into the world, you’re opening yourself up to the possibility that someone can (and will!) help you. Your friends, family, and even acquaintances and strangers all have the potential to provide some assistance or guidance. Even if that person can’t fix your problem or make it go away, she may know someone who can. Another person may also offer a new perspective with which to look at the issue, perhaps inspiring you with a new idea. At the very least, you will no longer be the only one who knows about the problem and with that weight lifted, your mind can be free, giving you the energy to actually find a solution.
Even if talking with others doesn’t help you resolve your current problem, the personal connections you make with people can help you further down the road. Most people are willing to lend a hand to a fellow human. You just need the courage to speak out and ask for help.